Not an option
All I wanted was a nice quiet dinner — a dinner I didn’t have to cook or deal with the dirty dishes. It had been a long day, and I just wanted to slink down into an out-of-the-way booth in a dark restaurant, have dinner and let the day quietly slip away. I just don’t have it in me to relive the entire restaurant saga, but let’s just say I couldn’t have chosen a worse place to relax and let the woes of the world vanish.
Let me preface this rant by saying I love all kinds of people. To me, it doesn’t matter if you’re rich or poor, fat or skinny, tall or short, successful or not ... I could really care less. I learned a long, long time ago to judge that proverbial book by its cover will disappoint you every time. In other words, you’ve got to read some pages to find out what lives inside ... Likewise, you’ve got to get to know the hearts of people. After that, what you see on the outside is purely irrelevant.
Back to the restaurant ...
They seemed like a nice enough family when they came in and sat down in the next booth. The woman/mother and I exchanged brief smiles, as she herded her children into the booth. There were three or four kids; I didn’t count. Her husband followed close behind and also took a seat.
OK, the kids were loud, but let’s face it, they are kids. Kids are loud nowadays. While I would have never been allowed to be so loud in a public place when I was a child, much has changed. I can (in most cases) ignore loud. I can deal with it, tune it out and thank God I’m not the one in charge of trying to keep a rowdy bunch of kids quiet in a reasonably quiet restaurant. In other words, I can live with loud.
But here’s what I couldn’t deal with ...
The kids kept burping. I’m not talking about a small, quiet burp (though I’m not sure that really matters), but rather a loud, obnoxious burp that caused more than just my head to turn toward the table. Now I’ve known kids to laugh when they burp, and I’ve even seen a bunch of kids get caught up in the moment when one burps and the others squeal with delight. But there was no laughter, and more important, there was no adult who reprimanded them for their impolite behavior.
I’m not kidding, you guys. These kids must have burped loudly eight or nine times, and neither Mom or Dad said a word to any of them. Everybody at their table just kept on eating like it was a normal thing to do. Every time one of them burped, I just knew Mom or Dad was going to say something to the child, but it never happened. Apparently, “Excuse me” was not in their vocabulary ... neither were good manners.
I’ve got news for you folks. If I had burped repeatedly in a restaurant when I was a kid (although we hardly ever went to a restaurant), I would have been slapped into next Sunday. OK ... nobody would have really slapped me, but I would have surely been reprimanded severely, and if it happened again, my rude little impolite self would have been sitting in the car by myself while the rest of my family enjoyed their meal. There was a lot we didn’t have when I was growing up, but manners were not an option.
I don’t think I’m being judgmental. I’m just appalled that in many cases, we’ve let our manners disappear. Even the basic manners — please, thank you, I’m sorry, excuse me — seem absent from today’s world. And it’s not just kids; I see plenty of adults who could use a refresher course in good manners too. (Please don’t write to tell me a loud burp is the sign of a good meal in some countries around the world. This is the USA. Burping in public is not a good sign of anything but a lack of manners.)
And then it all fell into place ...
As the waitress cleared the plates from the family’s table, Mom and Dad each let out a burp that would have put the kids’ manners to shame. As they say, the apples don’t fall too far from the tree ...
BCR Editor Terri Simon can be reached at tsimon@bcrnews.com or follow her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/bcrnews.tsimon.
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My wife has gerd and she doesn't burp at all. Gerd in most cases are due to environmental factors (lifestyle habits and eating preferences) they haven't proven a genetic link at all. Some people in the US especially, feel the need to garner attention for themselves, and misbehaving in public through being inconsiderate and being downright nasty, makes them feel important...who said the time of the ugly American is in the past. Some in this country feel its alright to impose their will on strangers around us, so burping and even farting will continue unabated until they're asked to leave. |










